Organising a funeral

The time after bereavement can be confusing with many difficult decisions to make. We hope the following information will be helpful to you.

There are two very useful sites which are designed to help people with the process of arranging or planning funerals. One is written by Jan Andrews which goes into great detail about arranging all aspects of a funeral. You can find it at Funeral Costs Help. It goes into more detail than this page.

There is another website written by Jennifer Higgs which looks into all aspects of headstones. Being a new church, we do not have a “church yard” at our church, but I hope you find this information about sourcing headstones useful. The site is The Definitive Guide to Choosing a Headstone.

We have no control over the content of external sites, but they may help and I recommend that you have a look at them. If you have any comments about these site, please do get in touch with us.

Where to hold the funeral?

A service can be held in several different locations. A crematorium chapel, a cemetery chapel followed by burial, or a service in church followed by cremation or burial. It is also possible to have a cremation or burial followed by a service of thanksgiving in church. Our ministers would be pleased to discuss these choices with you.

Arranging the funeral

The undertaker you chose will arrange the date of the funeral with you but if you would like one of our ministers to take the funeral and especially if you want a service in church either before, or after the committal then it would be best to check the availability of the minister and church before going to see the undertaker.

Once the date and time have been arranged then the minister will meet with you to discuss the Order of Service.

The Order of service

You may know what the person who has just died wanted for their funeral but if not the following is a suggested basic framework to guide you in preparing what you feel is appropriate. The choice of venue for the service may give time constraints to what can be included but our ministers will discuss the various possibilities with you.

  1. Welcome – this may include a verse from scripture and an introduction to the service.
  2. Opening prayer.
  3. Hymn – a hymn may follow and we can help with suggestions.
  4. Reading – usually from the bible and if time allows, may also include poems or other readings.
  5. Address – this will include words of tribute to the person who has died and can be spoken by the minister, family member or friend.
  6. Prayers – these will include prayer for the bereaved as well as thanksgiving for the person who has died, and may include the Lord’s Prayer.
  7. Hymn.
  8. Committal – the person who has died is commended into God’s merciful keeping.
  9. Blessing – the service ends with final words of blessing.
  10. Music – music is normally played at beginning and end of the service. The personal choice of the family is played if possible.

After the service

Where our ministers have taken a funeral the name of the deceased is entered into the memorial book we hold jointly with the Bridgwater Drive Church. Each year we hold a joint memorial service around the end of October for those who have been bereaved. There is an opportunity to light a candle, bring a posy of flowers if you wish and to look through the memorial book.

There is also an opportunity for members of our pastoral team to remain in contact with you for as long as you wish.